Your mental chatter working for you and no longer against you.
Thrive in your relationship and work or know it's time to move on.
Have the self-trust to change your life with confidence.
Stop overworking and have more pleasure in your life.
Deepen your connection to your body’s wisdom and sensuality.
To create our solid coaching container:
I listen without judgment.
I ask insightful questions.
I hold space for you to connect the dots that'll transform your life.
I challenge you when you’re holding back.
If you're ready to get started on creating a life you love, click the button to set up a Midlife Breakthrough Session with me.
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I believe in awareness, self-love, and radical self-responsibility.I believe that connection with others is a necessary nutrient.I believe that relationships are a vehicle for individual personal growth and awakening. I believe that everyone has the right to live their own life instead of the life handed to them by their background.I believe our innate glory is revealed when we drop the stuff blocking its shine.I believe in the beauty and power of the ocean and the creatures that live in it. I believe in staying curious.I believe we don’t have to wait until we get a chronic illness, or things get bad at work, or a loved one dies, to make the changes our deepest self wants us to make.I believe accessing your spiritual essence is the key to transforming limiting beliefs about yourself and what you’re capable of.I believe experiencing the depth of who you are (however you describe it) is the path to wholeness, personal power, and experiencing abiding joy.I believe in playfulness, sensual pleasure, and being so real it makes us sqeamish. I believe in choices and our freedom to make them.I believe in love as the core of what we are and what we’re here to express.
On relationship as a vehicle for personal growth
I wasn’t always clear and confident in my relationships, and definitely wasn’t in a position to offer this to another human being. In fact, intimate relationships used to be the source of my greatest suffering.
I had married the “right” guy but unfortunately he wasn’t right for me. So I ended our marriage in my mid-40’s and vowed to figure out this relationship thing once and for all.
When the love of my life, Patrick, and I met, neither of us was looking for a relationship. But we were each looking for personal growth and deeper, more authentic connections with others. We agreed to practice having vulnerable conversations and before long we fell in love.
Each of us has done “the right thing” by society's standards and have tended to ignore our own feelings to be there for others. So when we got into an epic fight over baby carrots after a couple of years of living together, we both saw it as a win!
He’d been secretly wondering if there was room to express the full range of his emotions in our relationship. We were happy to find out I could both provoke, and handle, his anger without being scared by it. Our fight didn’t lead him to be angrier, it led him to be more present and relaxed with me because he knows all of him is welcome with me.
We’re co-creating a relationship designed to hold all of us: our depth, brilliance, sexiness, and playfulness, along with childhood wounds that are ready to be seen and healed.
You can have this kind of relationship, too! It just takes willingness to get curious about what makes each of you tick and implementing the new skills I'll teach you, should we decide to work together.
I grew up participating in three cultures, American, Venezuelan, and Swedish, speaking three languages and feeling like an outsider in all of them. I spent a lot of time observing people so I could do the right thing and try to fit in. Eventually, trying to be the person others wanted me to be got too exhausting. I had to figure out who I really am.
When my father was dying, I moved back to NY to be with him. One night he said, “Other people in their early 30's are climbing the corporate ladder, getting married, and having kids. Why not you?”
I took a deep breath—putting aside that I’d left a booming healing practice in CA to move back to NY for him—and said,
“My ladder’s on a different wall. When those people realize the wall they’ve been climbing didn't make them happy, they’re going to come to me because they need what I have.”
This clarity about what I offer has been the throughline in my work for the last 30 years as a massage therapist, Chinese Medicine practitioner, poet, and finally, Midlife Transformational Specialist.
I'm here to say there's nothing wrong with being clear, powerful, and successful in parts of your life and not having it together in others. You deserve exquisite support to integrate your struggles with your skills and innate wisdom.
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