You've heard the expression, "You can have it all." And deep down you believe it...
But in your experience, success in work has come with setbacks in relationship.
The truth is, you just don't know how to "do relationship" as well as you "do work" — yet.
The good news is that relationship is a skill that can be learned just like any other.
I had to lose "the perfect relationship" before I could learn what it really meant to be in a successful and fulfilling relationship.
I was married to "The Perfect Guy": handsome, rich, creative, fun, reliable...
But I was dying inside.
It wasn’t his fault — it was that I didn’t know how to invite him to meet me at the depth I needed. He couldn’t win.
My health got worse. I could barely get out of bed each day.
I wanted so badly to stay married, but I was beyond unhappy.
My work was the ONLY place I got to have flow, so I buried myself in work and sabotaged my "perfect marriage."
After my divorce, I went on my own Eat, Pray, Love journey to Indonesia to scuba dive and grow my underwater photography skills — and that’s when life surged back into my being.
Leaving my marriage was my escape path to freedom, not from my former husband, but from a self-identity that never fit. I had been playing a role in my life and in my marriage that could never lead me to true fulfillment.
It took losing my marriage and being single for 3 years, before I could develop better boundaries and discover what I really wanted.
But you don't have to be alone to discover your deepest desires.
When you learn Relationship Alchemy you can discover who you really are and create what you really want ... in partnership. Even through partnership. In a way that you couldn't reach on your own.
I’m Marie-Elizabeth and I call myself a Relationship Alchemist.
A Relationship Alchemist is someone who turns the heavy challenges of love into gold. Someone who catalyzes the conflicts, fears and doubts that naturally come up in relationship into deep intimacy.
After my divorce, I dove into a deep study of relationships and sexuality. I wanted to understand what makes me tick within a relationship and how to communicate my deepest desires in a way that — rather than chasing my partner away — draws him closer and deepens our intimacy (and yes our chemistry, too) in the process.
My Relationship Alchemy system was born from that work, allowing me to find the love of my life and co-create a new kind of relationship — designed to hold all of us: our depth, our genius, our sexiness, our playfulness, and all of our messiness.
Now I'm on a mission to serve high-achieving women in having more love and pleasure in their lives, so they can feel fully loved and supported in becoming both successful and fulfilled.
Unlike other relationship coaches who play a volume game, I believe coaching is its own form of Relationship Alchemy. That's why I only take on six private clients a year plus dozens more in my intimate small group programs. I've had the honor of closely supporting over fifty women through deep personal and relationship transformation.
I work at the intersection of your relationship with yourself, your partner, and your work, so you can experience love without limits.
I have a magical combination of exquisite listening, a judgment-free yet honest perspective, and an uncanny intuition.
I guide you to see your patterns of relating—to yourself and others—in a refreshing way, so you can make new choices with greater awareness.
I focus on the parallel paths of INNER WORK and OUTER WORK:—Inner work is about clarifying your values, learning which thoughts to accept and which to ignore, and falling in love with even the messiest parts of you, so you can liberate your true self to guide you.—Outer work is about taking positive action steps, such as making clear requests, setting healthy boundaries, and listening well, that set you up for success in your relationship, and really, every area of your life.
You’re unwilling to own your stuff in your relationship — forgetting that it often takes two to ruin love.
You want someone else to fix you - I’m your coach, not your fairy godmother.
You believe that affirmations and positive thinking are all you need to get what you want. Sometimes you have to take a cold, hard look at the ways you're out of integrity with yourself. But I believe in infusing that honest look with love (instead of wallowing in shame), because getting real with yourself about what's not working and mobilizing your power to change it is a profound act of self-love.
You're not willing to celebrate all the ways you're already loveable just the way you are.
You’re not ready or willing to invest in your growth and freedom.
You’re rocking your work, but your relationship is slipping through your fingers.
You don’t love how you talk to yourself and you want to upgrade that self-talk.
As great as you are, you know you’re not showing up at your best in every area of your life.
You’re willing to look at yourself with honest eyes and make new, maybe even tough choices to craft the loving partnership you deserve.
You want a deeper flow with life's magic, so you can live in synchronicity and love.
On this free Relationship Catalyst Session, we’ll:• clarify your new, aligned vision for your relationship and your life• identify what’s getting in the way of making that vision come true• determine if and how I can best support you in creating a relationship and life that truly nourishes you and lights you up from the inside out
"Marie-Elizabeth is an amazing coach"
In our one-on-one work together, she kept pace with me, meeting me where I was at. I like that she pushed me, too. I’ve been able to run circles around most people for most of my life, so it was refreshing that she called out BS when she heard it. She provided just the right balance of DEEP understanding and compassion and "tough love." As a result, I’ve been able to un-hook myself from a bunch of beliefs that were holding me back. It's been such a BLESSING to have her in my life in this way.
Sarah B. Lange
Owner of Sarah B. Lange, Management Consulting for Non-Profits
"I feel really empowered"
I’ve had practically a complete reduction of negative self-talk and now have an easier time sitting in and expressing my truth. I know what my next steps are and I accomplished so much during this time. I recommend working with Marie-Elizabeth for her ability to teach different techniques that address specific issues that need attention. I wanted to work on making sure my relationship was well taken care of and ended up improving on myself, so I’m able to reap the benefits of this work in every aspect of my life, not just my relationship.
Owner/Operator of DL Transportation
I’m a published poet and underwater photographer.
I grew up in three cultures: American, Venezuelan, and Swedish, speaking three languages, feeling like an outsider in all of them until I figured out how to belong to myself.
I have a Master's degree in Traditional Chinese Medicine and another in poetry.
I still remember a poem in Mandarin that I memorized in college.
I'm a really good dancer.
I live with the love of my life and our two pitbull mixes in Los Angeles.
I love to dive with sharks.
I blog regularly over at Medium. Click here to read my publication!
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Images of Marie-Elizabeth byIn Her Image Photography